The Dangers of Showing Adolescence in Schools — And Healthier Alternatives
Netflix’s Adolescence caused an immediate stir, and not just among adult viewers—some policymakers and educators have even suggested screening the show in secondary schools, hoping it might act as a cautionary tale about online misogyny and violent radicalization. On the surface, this might seem like a sensible idea: if Adolescence effectively demonstrates how a seemingly ordinary teen boy could descend into incel-fueled violence, then perhaps it can “vaccinate” young viewers against similar influences.
However, the situation is more complicated. Below are the potential risks of showing Adolescence in a school environment—and some positive “tonic” alternatives that might serve students better.
Potential Risks of Presenting Adolescence in the Classroom
a) Reinforcing Negative Stereotypes
Toxic masculinity is at the center of Adolescence, but relying on that term—and on violent scenarios—can inadvertently transmit a message that “boys are dangerous by default.” Young men who have no inclination toward misogyny may feel attacked or unfairly lumped together. Research by the UK’s National Education Union (NEU) suggests that too much focus on “boys as problems” can foster resentment, reduce engagement, and even push some boys further away from mainstream messaging. They start feeling persecuted simply for their gender, which can ironically make them more receptive to extremist voices that promise acceptance and validation.
b) Psychological Impact and Trigger Warnings
Adolescence deals with graphic violence, including a fatal stabbing. For some students—especially those who have experienced violence or have mental health vulnerabilities—such scenes could be re-traumatizing. Schools already navigate careful guidelines about trigger warnings (particularly in the UK, US, and Australia). According to a 2024 policy brief from the Child Mental Health Foundation, “exposure to realistic portrayals of school violence in dramatic form can cause anxiety and nightmares in certain students, who may interpret the drama as a reflection of their own unsafe environment.”
c) Risk of Glamorizing or Normalizing Extreme Behavior
Counterintuitively, when a show presents shocking actions as a central plot device, a small subset of impressionable or troubled teens might see the violent perpetrator as an anti-hero. We’ve seen similar phenomena with the real-life idolization of school shooters or even criminals glamorized by media coverage. Although Adolescence doesn’t glorify its protagonist, the “fascination factor” can still be potent in a classroom setting where teenage curiosity is high and rebelliousness is often at play.
d) Oversimplification of Underlying Issues
William Costello’s research into incel psychology shows that many young men engaged in misogynistic communities struggle with mental health, social anxiety, or low self-esteem. Adolescence does underscore these complexities to an extent, but a brief classroom screening may reduce nuanced issues (like male insecurity or the need for robust mentorship) into a black-and-white morality tale: “This is toxic, don’t do it,” without deeper discussion about why boys feel the way they do and how they might find healthier coping strategies. An oversimplified message can cause students to tune out or push back—particularly if they sense blame or condemnation rather than empathy and guidance.
Positive “Tonic” not “Toxic” Role Model Dramas as Alternatives (or Complements)
While Adolescence can spark necessary conversations, many educators and psychologists recommend balancing grim cautionary tales with stories that highlight positive models of masculinity. These “tonic” dramas don’t sugarcoat struggles that boys face, but they offer constructive resolutions and demonstrate men using their strengths—courage, resilience, leadership—in ways that benefit themselves and those around them. Here are some suggestions:
Remember the Titans (2000)
Why it’s helpful: This sports drama—based on a true story—depicts an American high school football team dealing with racial integration in the early 1970s. Coach Herman Boone (played by Denzel Washington) and other male figures learn to overcome prejudice, become mentors, and build unity among young men. The film addresses conflict, anger, and testosterone-fueled aggression head-on, but channels those energies into teamwork and respect. Boys see they can be strong and competitive while still collaborating and caring for teammates.
Billy Elliot (2000)
Why it’s helpful: On the surface, this British classic is about a working-class boy who chooses ballet over boxing, but it also provides a window into male identity and emotional expression. Billy’s father and brother initially react with outrage, believing he’s betraying a “proper” form of masculinity. Over time, they learn that true masculinity can include support, open-mindedness, and unconditional love. This is particularly powerful in demystifying rigid gender norms—and it’s accessible for teens navigating similar identity or aspiration issues.
Coach Carter (2005)
Why it’s helpful: Another sports-based drama set in a tough high school environment, Coach Carter follows a strict but caring coach (Samuel L. Jackson) who demands accountability and academic achievement from his basketball team. The film highlights discipline, self-respect, teamwork, and personal responsibility—qualities that can be overshadowed when we only emphasize the harmful extremes of male aggression. Students can see a positive male figure who sets high standards and fosters community success rather than just individual triumph.
Dead Poets Society (1989)
Why it’s helpful: While this is an older title, it remains relevant for showcasing mentorship, creativity, and emotional openness in an all-boys’ school setting. Robin Williams portrays an English teacher who inspires students to explore poetry, feelings, and unconventional thinking. It underscores that part of being a well-rounded man is engaging with art, self-reflection, and vulnerability. Even though the film does have tragedy, it’s balanced with themes of camaraderie and finding one’s voice.
King Richard (2021)
Why it’s helpful: Featuring Will Smith as Richard Williams, father to tennis legends Venus and Serena, the film explores paternal mentorship, ambition, and sacrifice. While the protagonist is not perfect, he’s dedicated to empowering his daughters and securing them better lives through sports. It’s a positive depiction of a flawed but devoted father who channels perseverance, strategic thinking, and protectiveness into lifting up his family. This can be an excellent launching pad for discussing how healthy father figures (or mentors) can nurture resilience and self-worth in youth.
Ted Lasso (TV Series, 2020–)
Why it’s helpful (with caveats for older students): Though it’s a comedy rather than a straight-up drama, Ted Lasso explores mental health, leadership, and compassion in a Premier League soccer setting. Ted is gentle, caring, and leads by empathy—challenging the idea that a “leader” must be stern or aggressive. The show deals with male vulnerability, panic attacks, and therapy, making it suitable for discussions about how men cope with stress. (Note: contains some strong language and mature themes—check if it fits your school’s rating guidelines.)
How Schools Can Use These Alternatives
Balance the Conversation: If schools choose to show Adolescence at all, it would be wise to pair it with a more uplifting counterpoint—e.g., an excerpt from Coach Carter or a scene from Dead Poets Society—to demonstrate different outcomes for adolescent boys under caring, constructive mentorship.
Facilitate Guided Discussion: Instead of just screening the content, educators should use structured conversations, journaling prompts, or small-group activities to unpack major themes: “Why do these characters behave this way? Where do they get their ideas about masculinity? What solutions do they find—or fail to find?”
Offer Support Resources: If Adolescence is shown, be mindful that it contains unsettling violence. Schools might include mental health counselors or group sessions for students who find the content disturbing. Provide information on whom students can talk to (e.g., child psychologists, mentors, or helplines).
Focus on Practical Takeaways: Educational psychologist Dr. Emily Randle suggests lessons centered on “resilience, empathy, and healthy coping mechanisms.” Discussions could explore “What does a healthy conversation look like when you disagree? How do you stand up for yourself without harming others?” This kind of focus ensures that students don’t just walk away thinking, “I’m doomed to be toxic,” but rather, “Here’s how I can channel my emotions productively.”
A Concluding Thought: Mixing Realism with Optimism
There’s no question that Adolescence tackles timely, difficult issues. Its shocking portrayal of male violence—sparked by incel ideology—can serve as a stark warning. Yet in isolation, it risks pushing the narrative that masculinity is inevitably harmful. For some teens—especially those struggling with loneliness or self-doubt—such a dire message might inadvertently magnify their sense of fatalism or despair.
By balancing cautionary tales with more hopeful, affirming stories, schools can highlight the different directions masculinity can take. Yes, there are dark roads a young man might go down, but there are also countless examples—from sports fields to ballet studios, from comedic locker rooms to serious drama clubs—where male characters model respect, integrity, and compassion.
As William Costello’s research suggests, boys (and incels, in the extreme) often turn bitter or angry when they feel undervalued or marginalized. Repeatedly hammering them with “toxic masculinity” may intensify that marginalization. Offering them an alternative vision—stories of men and boys who find strength in community, empathy, and personal growth—could serve as the antidote. In essence, if Adolescence is the sour medicine that warns how bad things can get, these tonic dramas offer the sweet counterpart: a glimpse of what healthy masculinity might look like, in the real world and on the screen.
